"Sometimes hurt is needed to make you grow,
failure is needed to make you know,
loss is needed to make you gain
because some lessons are best learned through pain."
These lines speak more than anything else. No other explanation is required to express the thoughts running in my mind. Infact, conquering my mind, provoking me to write, to express more, to tell that pain is indeed, the best teacher.
I have been writing about my weakness,of listening to my heart over the mind. Of being an escapist, running away from sorrow as much as possible. I used to get blinded by the desire of being happy, doing everything possible to get what I want, to keep myself happy. In this process, I was missing out on the best lessons of life, the lessons conveyed by grief.
I had become impatient, stubborn to keep myself and my loved ones happy, hurting anyone who fell in its way or even appeared to befall.I was missing out on the real happiness, the happiness of forgiving, forgetting, understanding, loving inspite of everything.
The painful experiences teach more than anything else possible.
Children rarely remember the things taught in the class, it is uncertain, wether he will remember the lesson or not. But, he will always remember the things for which he was punished in any way. He will always remember the way he was unable to answer the teacher's question, and how bad and insulted he felt in front of others. The lesson will be automatically stored in his memory along with the experience and a message, that he has to study hard next time.
Sri sri ravi shankar says " Loving some one who loves you is very easy, but loving someone who accuses you, blames you, is the art of living.It is very easy to hate someone who hates you, but you rise much ahead of them when you love them inspite of the hatred. Positive always cancels negative. "
Life is too short to hate. But, it is the EGO that doesn't allow us to forget, forgive, love, accept and understand. And the most ironic part is,that we don't even realise that the EGO isnt allowing us to live a happy life. We hurt ourselves, as well as others, to satisfy our own ego. Nothing comes in return, only pain. Until we learn a lesson. Until, we open our eyes, and see, that it is the EGO which is not allowing us to live freely. It is a shackle, which tightens its grip, with each act of hatred. It is a monster, which gallopes the happiness, the self conscience,and makes us blind.
Once you let go of it, you start getting the messages,the lessons, and soon everything starts falling into place. Soon, understanding starts developing, and the negative experience becomes a memory, with a lesson, that love heals everything. From love, developes understanding and patience, and soon the ego melts away.
Pain teaches unforgettable lessons,of love and understanding, until you keep your eyes open and accept everything as they are.
Be happy.. :)
