Appreciation

We always fancy about buying new clothes, expensive jewellery, the latest things for ourselves .We always buy new dresses, new shoes, accesories for special occasions. We are always concerned about how we look, whether our dress is "IN'' these days or not..

Have you ever gone through a situation where you bought new branded clothes, dressed as beautifully as you could and when you go out, nobody praises you. You don't get even a single compliment. Seems as if all the effort, all the money and time spent on dressing up is in vain? Are you distressed? most of us won't agree that we actually become upset. We say, "I dress up because I love to" .. But the reality is, most of us dress up, work hard, spend hours at some task to merely impress others. 

Some people become so used to getting compliments, that if one day they don't get any, they would be highly distressed and would throw a fit as to how anyone did not notice them or their work. Imagine, if kareena kapoor walks through the streets, unnoticed, how it would hurt her ego, and she won't get out of depression for days!!

It is true that we work hard, accomplish our tasks dutifully,with perfection to achieve our personal goals, for money and APPRECIATION. As I said, in the example of kareena, famous personalities are used to getting compliments all the time. You wholeheartedly appreciate kareena's beauty or aamir's movies or paulo coehlo's books. But do you ever care to appreciate the topper of your class? Do you ever defy your ego and go up to your competitor to say congrats when he won the match? Do you ever dare to tell your friend that she looks better than you?

Leave those achievements alone, have you ever appreciated your mom for making such yummy food for you? Have you ever appreciated your sibling for bringing pens and notebooks from the neighbourhood shop when you were in need? No, we always say, "mummy kya roz roz wahi khaana khilaati ho" or "bhai itni der laga di tune, kaha reh gaya tha raaste me"..

Everyone in this world loves to be appreciated for whatever they have done, however petty the task may be. And most of the people find it against their ego to appreciate the other person. They speculate "appreciation" as a task that would hurt their ego. Think, how delightful it is for you to receive compliments, and how pleased the other person would be, on receiving unexpected compliments.  It won't seize anything from you, but would give the other immense pleasure. So, never hesitate to appreciate the pettiest of achievements by the people around you, because..

"Appreciation is a wonderful thing, it makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well"

If life had U-turns

Imagine, if there was a rewind button in our lives, if we could go back in time whenever we wished. If we could go back and enjoy the gleeful moments again, and rectify the mistakes which bring grief in the present.

Whenever the path would get thorny, we would go back to the point where the roads diverged, and take the other path which could possibly make us happy in the present. Still, if we are not content, we’ll repeat the process.Sounds fascinating? Doesn’t it?

There will be no worries, nothing to regret about, only happiness. And one point will come, when we will be tired of being happy. There will be no bad experiences, hence, no opportunities to learn and grow. Our life will become a chaos, where we will be switching between the past and the present like a maniac.

When we want something, we struggle like crazy to get it. Once we get it, it gives happiness, but after a while, we are bored of it, and we want something else. Like a child gets on his parents’ nerves to get a toy or a game, after getting it, he plays with it for a few hours and then, gets bored of it, forgets its worth.

Similarly, if all our wishes come true, we will get bored of it, we will forget the worth of happiness. We all wish at some or the other point, to go back in time and change the past according to our desire, or simply to relive the beautiful moments. But, if all the wishes start coming true, how will we experience the beauty of longing.

I don't have much regrets about my past. Infact, I don't have any regrets. I just accept the past as it is, because at that point of time, whatever I chose was out of my own will, that was what I wanted. It's better to face it with a smile rather than regretting.

There is no use, lamenting over the past, because God has created a cycle of happiness and sorrow. If bad times are here, the cheerful ones will surely follow. If we try to break this virtue, our life will become haywire.
Instead of regretting about the decisions in the past, and wishing for life to take a U turn,we must struggle with the hardships, and take wise decisions, so that we are not left with any reason to regret later. Because,

“NO ONE CAN GO BACK AND CHANGE THE BEGINNING, BUT EVERYONE CAN START TODAY AND MAKE A NEW END"