Zarurat hai ek sundar,sushil ladki ki

We all have seen the matrimonial advertisements in newspapers, on the internet, and even on the television these days. "zarurat hai ek sundar sushil ladki ki..."
I wonder:

1. If all boys want a fair,beautiful girl, then where will all the dark and not-so-beautiful girls go? These families never think about What their son looks like,they just want a beautiful bride-groom. As if they are looking for a show-piece for their drawing room. A show piece to show off to the relatives and make it a way of enhancing their reputation in the society. Why are the girls always required to be beautiful? Why don't these aunties n uncles understand the famous "BEAUTY LIES IN THE EYES OF THE BEHOLDER" ??

2. "Ladki ko ghar ka kaam ache se aana chahiye"
This is another requisite which most of the mothers of grooms ask for. Are they looking for a bride or a household maid-servant. I mean they want everything, the girl should know household work, and she should earn also. They expect from her a perfect behaviour, as if balancing the home and work is a child's play.

3. "SUSHIL"
The boys or the 'grooms-to-be' fret over the fact that their wife-to-be should be Sushil. As in, she shouldn't have had any past relationships or link-ups and most importantly should be a virgin. Do they ever think of their own past records. How many girls have they dated? How many girls have they played around with?? How many girls have they slept with?? Everything they did was fair, and if a girl have had a past relationship, they simply put a question on her character, say that her character is not good. Worst case, if the girl is not a virgin. Most of the boys create an issue out of it.

The society always pin-points the girls. Whatever be the problem,they accuse the girl. In relationships, girls are the ones who compromise the most, still they are accused when problems occur. Any small mistake on the part of the girl is fussed about. Whereas, the boys are free to do whatever they want to, behave with their wives whichever way they want to, but the girl has to be submissive, otherwise she is not considered "sushil".

Why do they always expect the girl to compromise?Why don't they consider girls and boys to be equal. Why do they have this paradoxical attitude? Why don't they let the girls live by their own will? These questions are always going to remain unanswered.The older generation ought to be less paradoxical and start thinking in a broad manner. If the boys have a right to live by their own rules, the girls should have the same.