Dear god, from the bottom of my heart.

Dear god, 

I had always heard "god helps those who help themselves" . I never understood the meaning till I saw it happening with myself. I don't know whether I am a fool or what, but I don't understand something till I haven't experienced it. I learn only from experiences, not from lectures. I always knew you were there, besides me. But I never understood what you had been trying to teach me. You wanted me to open my eyes, speculate and understand that the life I was leading was not what you wanted me to lead. That everybody deserves their share of happiness and respect. You had directed me , given enough hints, but it was me who kept my eyes shut! I just shut out all the signs and decided to cling to the cobweb. I had enervated my senses struggling in the wrong direction. I had victimised myself for too long. I had developed a thinking that I can't get out of it, inspite of being unhappy, being hemmed by the situation, I had started to believe that this is my destiny. I knew my soul had been hurt, it wasn't growing, it was just being impoverished. Still, I could not take that leap towards my salvation. I liked the routine, I liked the monotony of being sad. Everybody loathes change, so did I . 

Somehow, I was punishing myself, and another soul. But , you do perform miracles. You do that in the form of angels and the secret messages they carry. You granted me with the strength, and the wisdom to move out, to open my eyes and see that I deserve to be happy, to be free. That I was commiting the biggest mistake of my life. I had made mistakes, plenty of them! And I needed to get out of the cobweb. I was directed to the path towards my salvation. You helped me at each and every step, through one thing or the other, through one person or the other, you kept sending the messages. My faith in you has grown manifold. I don't care about what people say, but now I can feel my soul growing. I can feel my mind opening to new ideas. I am thinking about myself, my future , my dreams instead of some one else's . I am in love with my life now. I truly feel like your favourite child. It wasn't easy, it came with a lot of pain. But you granted me the strength too. 

Thank you god, from the bottom of my heart. You exist, and you do perform miracles! :)

A dose of ecstasy

How do you define your "dose of ecstasy"? well, I just experienced one.. 


Today, I woke up with a melancholy feeling. A feeling of being stuck at home all the time, as none of my friends were willing to go out because of the weather since so many days..! I switched on the television, and there they were, the news channels, babbling about the weather crossing 63 year records and stuff. I switched off the idiot box. I know, that's what they are paid for-- exaggerating things to intolerable extents. Till afternoon, the heat was at its worst. So was my mood. I was in the lousiest and the most irritated mood. 


The temperature outside was on a high, and so was the temperature inside my head. I desperately needed a break. Which, somehow I wasn't getting. Out of boredome, I slept in the afternoon, and when I woke up... The weather was amazing.. it was raining. . I felt ecstatic as the cool breeze touched my face, and the little drops seeped deep into me, filling my heart with sanctity. Everything seemed so wonderful, the trees brighter, the birds happier. The feeling was amazing. It was exhilarating..I went out to get some jalebis (nothing is better than munching into hot jalebis in a pleasant weather). What an evening it was. 


I wonder how, sometimes the smallest of things cause the biggest of changes. Happiness lies in such little things. We lament for being unable to make it to the hill stations in summer holidays. Why not experience the happiness in your own balcony? You just need to experience the happiness hidden in small things. Just keep your senses open. :) :)

Appreciation

We always fancy about buying new clothes, expensive jewellery, the latest things for ourselves .We always buy new dresses, new shoes, accesories for special occasions. We are always concerned about how we look, whether our dress is "IN'' these days or not..

Have you ever gone through a situation where you bought new branded clothes, dressed as beautifully as you could and when you go out, nobody praises you. You don't get even a single compliment. Seems as if all the effort, all the money and time spent on dressing up is in vain? Are you distressed? most of us won't agree that we actually become upset. We say, "I dress up because I love to" .. But the reality is, most of us dress up, work hard, spend hours at some task to merely impress others. 

Some people become so used to getting compliments, that if one day they don't get any, they would be highly distressed and would throw a fit as to how anyone did not notice them or their work. Imagine, if kareena kapoor walks through the streets, unnoticed, how it would hurt her ego, and she won't get out of depression for days!!

It is true that we work hard, accomplish our tasks dutifully,with perfection to achieve our personal goals, for money and APPRECIATION. As I said, in the example of kareena, famous personalities are used to getting compliments all the time. You wholeheartedly appreciate kareena's beauty or aamir's movies or paulo coehlo's books. But do you ever care to appreciate the topper of your class? Do you ever defy your ego and go up to your competitor to say congrats when he won the match? Do you ever dare to tell your friend that she looks better than you?

Leave those achievements alone, have you ever appreciated your mom for making such yummy food for you? Have you ever appreciated your sibling for bringing pens and notebooks from the neighbourhood shop when you were in need? No, we always say, "mummy kya roz roz wahi khaana khilaati ho" or "bhai itni der laga di tune, kaha reh gaya tha raaste me"..

Everyone in this world loves to be appreciated for whatever they have done, however petty the task may be. And most of the people find it against their ego to appreciate the other person. They speculate "appreciation" as a task that would hurt their ego. Think, how delightful it is for you to receive compliments, and how pleased the other person would be, on receiving unexpected compliments.  It won't seize anything from you, but would give the other immense pleasure. So, never hesitate to appreciate the pettiest of achievements by the people around you, because..

"Appreciation is a wonderful thing, it makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well"

If life had U-turns

Imagine, if there was a rewind button in our lives, if we could go back in time whenever we wished. If we could go back and enjoy the gleeful moments again, and rectify the mistakes which bring grief in the present.

Whenever the path would get thorny, we would go back to the point where the roads diverged, and take the other path which could possibly make us happy in the present. Still, if we are not content, we’ll repeat the process.Sounds fascinating? Doesn’t it?

There will be no worries, nothing to regret about, only happiness. And one point will come, when we will be tired of being happy. There will be no bad experiences, hence, no opportunities to learn and grow. Our life will become a chaos, where we will be switching between the past and the present like a maniac.

When we want something, we struggle like crazy to get it. Once we get it, it gives happiness, but after a while, we are bored of it, and we want something else. Like a child gets on his parents’ nerves to get a toy or a game, after getting it, he plays with it for a few hours and then, gets bored of it, forgets its worth.

Similarly, if all our wishes come true, we will get bored of it, we will forget the worth of happiness. We all wish at some or the other point, to go back in time and change the past according to our desire, or simply to relive the beautiful moments. But, if all the wishes start coming true, how will we experience the beauty of longing.

I don't have much regrets about my past. Infact, I don't have any regrets. I just accept the past as it is, because at that point of time, whatever I chose was out of my own will, that was what I wanted. It's better to face it with a smile rather than regretting.

There is no use, lamenting over the past, because God has created a cycle of happiness and sorrow. If bad times are here, the cheerful ones will surely follow. If we try to break this virtue, our life will become haywire.
Instead of regretting about the decisions in the past, and wishing for life to take a U turn,we must struggle with the hardships, and take wise decisions, so that we are not left with any reason to regret later. Because,

“NO ONE CAN GO BACK AND CHANGE THE BEGINNING, BUT EVERYONE CAN START TODAY AND MAKE A NEW END"

Faith

This is my second article on faith, because now I have gained some more insight into what it is..and how it works.. huh.. Do I sound like an engineer? "HOW IT WORKS".. well, I ought to be. Engineer by fate and blogger by choice. :)

What i know of faith is that "It steers you through situations when things seem impossible, When things go out of hand , and you don't know what will happen next."

The situation seems out of control, and you have nothing to do, And then, a miracle-like experience occurs and all you do is gaze at the conditions that prevailed before. It seems foolish, in what condition you were in, and what you are now. Everything just seems all right. As aamir khan says in 3 idiots,  "ALL IS WELL". 

I feel on this day, that whatever I am today, survived two years of torturous ENGINEERING, all my frivolous mood swings, and all the mess I get myself into, is because of unshaken faith and wishes of some or the other person. Here, I apply my concept of "angels". Angels are real people whose unshaken faith and wishes elevate you from all the problems.The angels are everywhere around you, and they are constantly wishing for your happiness and well being.

Imagine, you are really sick, down with fever and your head is aching like hell, and you have an exam next day. You can't concentrate, you just read through the pages and grasp all the little bits you can. And then, someone says, with complete faith, that your exam will be really good tomorrow. You won't believe it. You will wonder  "yaar kuch aata hi nai hai to accha kaise hoga" ..right? And what if the same happens? You get all the tidbits you had read as questions in the exam.. The teacher gets lineant on you.. The person sitting behind you helps you out all through the exam.. And you perform wonderfully. 

The magical keywords to this success are..WISHES, FAITH, ANGELS.. It was because of the FAITH with which the ANGEL WISHED for your success.

Thanks to all the angels in my life, who wish for my success and happiness. :)

Approaching the End

                                                                  
                                                                  The earth is burning,

calling for help,

under the atrocity of humans,

it yelps.

The world watches,

as the earth is approaching its end,

ruined by the brutality of mankind,

it laments.

With a shrunken heart

and sulky eyes,

we watch the glaciers melt

and the temperatures rise.

Predicted by maya,

and scientists prove it right,

the year 2012 will bring

a verocious sight.

The earth will roar,

and show its might

to the tyrant humans

who neglected its plight.

The harm caused

cannot undergo any alteration,

but we can prevent our mother earth

from further degradation.

Let us pledge to accomplish 

kind acts towards the earth,

and prevent the human race

from the foreseen dearth.

Let us pledge not to cause

any further harm,

and try our best

to restore the nature's charm.

Finding happiness in little things

Today, I woke up with a very fresh and euphoric feeling. The reasons were multiple. One, because I have a long weekend ahead, no getting up early, going to college, studying, roaming around, I can laze around at home for three whole days. (I am very lazy..my favourite hobby is sleeping..that's when I get most of my ideas..in dreams) .. The second reason was that my grandpa,who had passed away a few months ago appeared in my dream last night. His face had a divine, unending light..he looked happier than ever, the multiple lines on his forehead had disapeared, he was all fit and healthy. He had come to meet us for a day, every one was so happy, celebrating.. So happy, that the happiness remained with me even after getting up. 

I went to my mom's room to greet every one, but my mom was in a very bad mood because our holiday plan for the weekend had been cancelled. It didn't affect my mood. I was indeed, in very high spirits, and started thinking of ways through which i could make her feel better.

I went into the kitchen, and started thinking of something to prepare for breakfast. After much thinking, and browsing over my recipe notebook several times, I decided to make vegetable rolls. They were a hit amongst everyone, and somehow, uplifted their mood a bit. I logged into facebook, and checked out my horoscope for the day. It was"you are in high spirits today, and it will bring smile on the faces of the people around you".. Made me even more happy, i wondered how, little events can multiply your happiness, uplift your mood.

Later in the afternoon, I thought of trying something new, (my favourite activity when i am in a good mood,trying out something different) .. I was thinking what could i do,read a book,write, paint something, but I do all that often, then the idea of preparing an indian dish for lunch struck my mind. I have never made any typical indian vegatable before. I opened my recipe notebook, and finally decided to prepare Paneer pasandaa. Although it took an hour to prepare it, I was delighted when it was ready.I loved the aroma,the colour,the taste..It was the best paneer dish i had ever had.Because, I had prepared it with all my heart. The same feelings were shared by my family. They also praised it whole-heartedly. I loved the feeling which I had after this little achievement of mine. Which was increased manifold by the support of my family. 

All these events made me wonder,that doing what you love makes you tremendously happy. It rejuvenates you, and makes you feel so much better and self-confident.

 Now, I am more in love with myself, and tomorrow I would try some other activity which I love to do.

Later in the evening, I sat down to think, that all of us are always stressed out by the problems of our lives. It seems like we have forgotten the meaning of joy, which can be found in little things, like, a joyful dream, a horoscope reading, relaxing, doing something we love to do. It gives so much of happiness, just to do what you love. The feeling is simply outstanding. Why don't we forget the problems, and start enjoying every little event, enjoying the weather, listening to the birds chirping out of the window, the silence of the morning..

God gives us so many opportunities to be happy. Life is all about finding happiness in everything. God is great. Thank you god..for everything..

Few lessons are best learned through pain

"Sometimes hurt is needed to make you grow,
failure is needed to make you know,
loss is needed to make you gain
because some lessons are best learned through pain."

These lines speak more than anything else. No other explanation is required to express the thoughts running in my mind. Infact, conquering my mind, provoking me to write, to express more, to tell that pain is indeed, the best teacher.
I have been writing about my weakness,of listening to my heart over the mind. Of being an escapist, running away from sorrow as much as possible. I used to get blinded by the desire of being happy, doing everything possible to get what I want, to keep myself happy. In this process, I was missing out on the best lessons of life, the lessons conveyed by grief.
I had become impatient, stubborn to keep myself and my loved ones happy, hurting anyone who fell in its way or even appeared to befall.I was missing out on the real happiness, the happiness of forgiving, forgetting, understanding, loving inspite of everything.

The painful experiences teach more than anything else possible.
Children rarely remember the things taught in the class, it is uncertain, wether he will remember the lesson or not. But, he will always remember the things for which he was punished in any way. He will always remember the way he was unable to answer the teacher's question, and how bad and insulted he felt in front of others. The lesson will be automatically stored in his memory along with the experience and a message, that he has to study hard next time.

Sri sri ravi shankar says " Loving some one who loves you is very easy, but loving someone who accuses you, blames you, is the art of living.It is very easy to hate someone who hates you, but you rise much ahead of them when you love them inspite of the hatred. Positive always cancels negative. "

Life is too short to hate. But, it is the EGO that doesn't allow us to forget, forgive, love, accept and understand. And the most ironic part is,that we don't even realise that the EGO isnt allowing us to live a happy life. We hurt ourselves, as well as others, to satisfy our own ego. Nothing comes in return, only pain. Until we learn a lesson. Until, we open our eyes, and see, that it is the EGO which is not allowing us to live freely. It is a shackle, which tightens its grip, with each act of hatred. It is a monster, which gallopes the happiness, the self conscience,and makes us blind.
Once you let go of it, you start getting the messages,the lessons, and soon everything starts falling into place. Soon, understanding starts developing, and the negative experience becomes a memory, with a lesson, that love heals everything. From love, developes understanding and patience, and soon the ego melts away.
Pain teaches unforgettable lessons,of love and understanding, until you keep your eyes open and accept everything as they are.
Be happy.. :)

IMAGINE..

I've noticed lately, that most of my articles start with the word "IMAGINE". I am an imaginative person, and always evoke others to imagine. I have a picturesque memory, and sometimes, even I am amazed at how could I remember some place, or home, which I had seen long ago.

Imagination is audacious, it leads us to places, which are totally unknown to us. It leads us to things, which nobody else would have ever thought of. Its a sole property of the individual. What I imagine, maybe you cannot, what you imagine, the others cannot. My imagination takes me to different places, and yours takes you to different. Some people say, I imagine a lot, which they think could be harmful at times. I guess, it is my strength, that I imagine a lot. Sometimes, I get ideas which nobody could ever think of. All I do is keep that topic in my mind, and automatically, pictures start flashing in my mind. It is an aid to life, a better life, where you go beyond the range of your thinking, and imagine things, which may not be even existent, but it leaves you with an idea, and a provocation, to make it true.

Imagination is the key to the inventions and discoveries. If the great scientists hadn't imagined things like television, aeroplanes, radio, etc, there wouldn't have been anything. Each one of them had a blueprint of the final product in their minds, only because of which, they were able to turn them into reality.

Imagination widens your range of thoughts. It allows you to see beyond the conventions. Its the same old logic, to do something new, you have to make a blueprint in your mind. Imagine yourself doing what you have wished for, achieving what you are working for. It could be as small as losing your weight, imagine yourself burning the calories at the gym, and eventually, view yourself with the slim clear figure. And it could be as big as clearing an entrance exam, imagine yourself, studying at the IIT campus, eating in the IIT canteen.

But, there is a very thin line, in getting positive results, and screwing up your life via imagination. I have learnt this recently, that imagining negative things can transform happiness into sorrow. It can also hamper what we already have, instead of getting more happiness. Sometimes, we start imagining negative things, and as you know, the world around you becomes a copy of the picture in your mind. Imagining negative things can lead to more sorrow, because when we start imagining negative things, we picture the world around us in a negative way. Soon, everything around us seems negative, we start percieveing everything, everyone, as negative.
I never knew, my imaginative mind would ever create problems for me. But it happened, and now I have learnt NOT to imagine negativity. NEVER..
So, my imagination is again a bliss, as it always was. Be happy, and always imagine good things around, because:
"THE WORLD AROUND YOU IS A XEROX OF THE PICTURE YOU HAVE IN YOUR MIND"

Billi raasta kaat gayi

I hear these superstitious things everywhere, and it irritates me to the core. I don't understand, that how one's day will be spoiled because a black cat crossed their way. This is only one of the millions of superstitious beliefs that exist in the minds of people around us. It seriously leaves me amazed. I always ask my mom that why do we believe in all this, she asks me to shut my mouth and do as said, because, even she doesn't know the answer to this question. Even she would have been asking this question from her mother since childhood, and her mother would have been giving the same answer.

Recently, my grandfather passed away, thirteen days of rituals were performed, in which thousands of rupees must have been spent. And when I asked my grandmother, why are we doing it, she said " so that his soul rests in peace". I wonder how would his soul rest in peace, when his sons are spending hard earned money on performing rituals for thirteen whole days, serving lunch to relatives, feeding the pandits, paying them high "Dakshinas" for uttering the mantras and other things that I don't understand. And, this doesn't end in thirteen days. Some 21 pandits were served after the completion of one month, and a hawan was performed after the completion of 3 months. I don't see any logic behind all these ceremonies and rituals. The one who has passed away, his deeds will decide whether his soul rests in peace or goes to heaven or whatever happens after death. The mourn of his loss should be in our hearts. Feeding the poor is also a very good deed in his remembrance. But, why these absurd rituals?

We go to the temple, we pray to the god, we respect him, we have faith in him. Very fine. But, people also create strange beliefs related to god. First of all, monday- shiv ji's day, tuesday-hanuman ji's day, thursday- sai baba and so on.. If the creators of these beliefs were dedicated enough, then they would have considered each day as god's special day. People flock together at the hanuman temple on tuesday, sai baba temple on thursday and so on. They believe that, if you will go to hanuman temple on tuesday, he will listen faster.
I believe, if you actually have faith in him, every day is tuesday for you. Why wait for tuesday to visit the temple? Go whenever you feel like, go whenever you seek god. It may be everyday, once a week, or once a month, any day of the week, any date.

Recently, solar eclipse was seen. Ten days before it, and the news channels had these baba's, the fortune tellers predicting how one's life will be affected by the solar eclipse according to their sunsign. Strange, very strange it is. And on the top of that, they suggest ways to overcome these negative effects. Most of these ways include filling the pockets of pandits and baba's like him.
God is within us, we ought to have faith in him. Our life is in our hands. We make our own destiny, not these baba's and pandits.

You all must have been watching the serial balika vadhu on TV. It shows hardcore reality. It still exists, the life of widows and young girls are miserable in villages, and even in cities. I strongly disapprove of these superstitions and many others, that exist in our society. These are simply creations of people's own minds and have been followed through generations. Its YOUNGISTAN now, and we can liberate our society from the shackles of these beliefs which do not let people live freely.

Being an escapist

I wish it was easy to decide whether to listen to the heart or the mind. It's never easy for me. In most of the situations, I feel as if a battle is going on inside me. It's very hard to decide. And, in most of the situations, my heart overpowers the brain.
I don't understand why, even though I know what is better for me, I decide in favour of my heart irrespective of the decision of the mind.

I guess it's very hard to gather the courage to listen to the mind. It's a weakness, obviously, to let the heart overpower the mind. I never get the courage to fight the tears, to fight with my heart. I guess, I am too afraid of misery. Maybe, it's because I have'nt experienced much bad times in life, Or maybe I haven't had much bad times in life because I never had the courage to listen to my mind, and take risks.
I have always taken the easier path, I was always afraid of crying. But, sometimes, the situations are inevitable. They are not in my control, and I have to face the misery. Still, I don't have the courage to fight the tears, I search for the easiest way to escape. A way to escape the sadness. But, they just follow.

Whenever, I pray to god, I never ask him for happiness, I ask him to give me the courage to fight the hardships, to take the decisions from my mind, which are wiser, and not a way to escape misery. Because, anyhow, it will follow. Like, wise people have always been saying:
"JITNA HUM DUKH SE DOOR BHAAGTE HAIN, WO UTNA HI HUMAARE PEECHE AATA HAI"

I hear these lines often, from many people, but I could never follow its morale. Because, when I ask my heart, it refuses.

And It Rained

Life was stagnant,
Dullness all around.
To the same old gloom, I was bound.
It was empty,
it was black,
In my life,
it was love which lacked.

And It rained,
It rained love.

Relieving me of my worries,
Breaking off my shackles,
I fly in the glory of love.

I feel special,
As special as the Rose,
standing out in its beauty,
where no other is even close.

I feel happy,
As happy as a blind man would be,
if he gets eyes to see.

I feel lucky,
As lucky a man would feel,
if he hits a fortune,
and is full of zeal.

The feeling is out of the world,
Inexpressible it is,
Love is an eternal bliss.

I cherish
every smile, every moment,
every feeling, every word.
As I feel blessed,
to be showered with
The rain of your Love.

BE A MAN

"Ladkio ka toh kaam hota hai makeup karna aur gossip karna" This line seems to be a passe these days but, believe me this is what all boys have on their mind. All guys are chauvinists. The percentage of characteristics may vary, but the trait exists. Most of them won't still agree but it's there.

No male can tolerate the progress of a female. They just can't see a girl performing better than them at work or in any field. The thought of superiorism is too high in them. I know people who think that girls don't have brains.They say, how hard girls try, they cannot reach the boys' standards.

You must be wondering that all this must have been said by some old age grandparent or something. Let me tell you, in this age, where girls are actually performing better than the guys, the boys have become insecure and spread their dirty mentality across the society.

It annoys me the most, when the boys think that they are the ones who possess more brains and they are better at everything. I have had criticism for my blog from one such coward guy, who said "yeah you write fairly well..according to the girls' standards atleast"..
Now where does the point of a girl or a boy come, writing is writing, whether written by a girl or a boy. Infact in every field, work is work..done by any of the two sexes.
The people who show their "MALE EGO" actually feel insecure from inside, with girls coming up with flying colours in each and every field.
Where will equality come from when the males are'nt ready to accept girls as their competition. GROW UP YOU COWARDS. BE A MAN and face it, girls can be equally compatible.

Faith

FAITH- Actually, I never understood the exact meaning of faith. I guess, most of us don't. Whatever little I understand, I am writing.

I've heard:
"Faith is to believe what you can't see"
We can't see God,We don't know whether he is there or not, but we have faith in him, that he is the one, who has brought us into existence. We know that it's him who is responsible for the good and the bad, the smiles and the tears, the success and the failure. He makes it happen.
Our elders always say "BHAGWAN JO KARTE HAIN ACCHE KE LIYE KARTE HAIN".
When bad times fall, it is hard to believe this very line, it becomes hard to believe that whatever happens, happens for good. We often think, that if it is bringing so much of grief to us, how can it be for good? FAITH is the answer to everything. We should try to have faith in him, faith in the creator of this world.

One of my friends says you should think that you are God's favourite child. You should have faith, that he will not do any harm to you. Don't feel sad because something happened to you, smile because it happened. It saved you from further harm.

We can't define love, but we know that it exists. We have faith in our parents, our family that they love us. We know they won't cause us any harm.

Only if having complete faith was something as easy as saying all this, life would be full of happiness. We would not cry if something bad happened to us, because we would have complete faith in the almighty. We would not cry because our parents scolded us, or didn't fulfill our wish, because we would have complete faith in them.
I believe that we should have faith only in the God and our parents. Because they are our creators. They are responsible for our existence. We are a part of them. They are the only ones who love us selflessly.
No one else deserves our faith. Because no one else can love us selflessly. No one else in this material world will sacrifice their happiness for ours, no one else will love us more than they love themselves.

I have faith in god, that he will give the best I deserve, he will be fair in his decisions towards me, and I will be fair too, in my deeds.
Regards to those who love me.
:) :)

Zarurat hai ek sundar,sushil ladki ki

We all have seen the matrimonial advertisements in newspapers, on the internet, and even on the television these days. "zarurat hai ek sundar sushil ladki ki..."
I wonder:

1. If all boys want a fair,beautiful girl, then where will all the dark and not-so-beautiful girls go? These families never think about What their son looks like,they just want a beautiful bride-groom. As if they are looking for a show-piece for their drawing room. A show piece to show off to the relatives and make it a way of enhancing their reputation in the society. Why are the girls always required to be beautiful? Why don't these aunties n uncles understand the famous "BEAUTY LIES IN THE EYES OF THE BEHOLDER" ??

2. "Ladki ko ghar ka kaam ache se aana chahiye"
This is another requisite which most of the mothers of grooms ask for. Are they looking for a bride or a household maid-servant. I mean they want everything, the girl should know household work, and she should earn also. They expect from her a perfect behaviour, as if balancing the home and work is a child's play.

3. "SUSHIL"
The boys or the 'grooms-to-be' fret over the fact that their wife-to-be should be Sushil. As in, she shouldn't have had any past relationships or link-ups and most importantly should be a virgin. Do they ever think of their own past records. How many girls have they dated? How many girls have they played around with?? How many girls have they slept with?? Everything they did was fair, and if a girl have had a past relationship, they simply put a question on her character, say that her character is not good. Worst case, if the girl is not a virgin. Most of the boys create an issue out of it.

The society always pin-points the girls. Whatever be the problem,they accuse the girl. In relationships, girls are the ones who compromise the most, still they are accused when problems occur. Any small mistake on the part of the girl is fussed about. Whereas, the boys are free to do whatever they want to, behave with their wives whichever way they want to, but the girl has to be submissive, otherwise she is not considered "sushil".

Why do they always expect the girl to compromise?Why don't they consider girls and boys to be equal. Why do they have this paradoxical attitude? Why don't they let the girls live by their own will? These questions are always going to remain unanswered.The older generation ought to be less paradoxical and start thinking in a broad manner. If the boys have a right to live by their own rules, the girls should have the same.